Check in with the bride! First you should talk to the bride and find out what kind of party she wants. If she wants to go out of town, that’s great. But also find out what people can afford. Some might be more interested in the time spent together than spending a bucket full of dough [especially after wedding gifts, bridesmaids dresses and hotel rooms] so be sensitive to all!
Consider going to a city that’s nearby, but still away from home. You might be able to find a place that has group wine tours or a regional casino like Viejas resort & Casino. Or head out to Palm Springs for a fabulous girls getaway that's just a few hours east! The Ace Hotel is a charming way to dive right into the PS spirit! Or how about Mammoth Mountain Inn for a winter wonderland getaway? Or the famous Rosarito Beach Hotel or Las Rocas Resort & Spa in Baja Mexico? A quick drive to Temecula gets you to the gorgeous South Coast Winery Resort & Spa or just go as far as San Marcos and live a lakeside dream Bachelorette weekend at Lake House Resort! Perhaps a rented cabin up at Big Bear would be a great place to hang out and a chance for the bridal party to get to know each other, while paying tribute to the bride-to-be. Go camping or “glamping,” take a cooking class, go skydiving, go to a dive bar and sing karaoke, visit museums, take a craft beer tour, visit a distillery or go to a spa (ask about a group rate on spa services!). You can even do volunteer work or Arts and Crafts at Charity Wings.
When planning, remember to be diplomatic: Ask the bride first what she wants to do, and then ask the other attendees for ideas to add.
Remind the other party-goers not to post on social media until you get back, or you can create a private Facebook group to post photos for only those you trust. You don’t want strangers to know your house is unattended.
What’s most important:
Take some time to shower the bride with love, too. Play games, create a scrapbook for her, do crafts together, talk about how each of you met her and why you are still close friends. Brides planning a wedding are usually stressed to their limit, so take some time to allow her to relax and have fun. Maybe give each other pedicures, or have a home spa night.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, delegate. Centralize the planning, but ask other friends or bridesmaids to help out. Have one person research venues, another decide on games, another get a cake and champers, and so on. You don’t have to do it all yourself. Doing all the work yourself almost guarantees you won’t have fun and maybe even end up feeling resentful.
The most important part of any bachelorette party is the memories you make. The bride will remember this party as the most important time of her life with her best friends. She’ll love you for it.
Oh and please if you want to have a pillow fight Bachelorette Party like this adorable one shot by Chris Wojdak Photography.... you should do that part at home!:)